In the inimitable words of Ray Kinsella, the main character in, Field of Dreams, “What’s in it for me?” The question is potentially offensive, totally ego driven, and as common as waves on water.
Asking, “What’s in it for me?” is a perfectly reasonable thing to do, especially when you’re considering doing something as weird and wonderful as becoming a pilot, or getting married.
With the full support of my wife, I set off for a big-time flight school six weeks after we were married. I went. She stayed with her folks.